Nuances of Life!

GUEST COLUMN: Dr. N Prabhudev

In a chaotic Life- Simplicity is the utmost sophistication!

The purpose of life is not merely to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate and to make some difference that you have lived and lived well. It’s time that “me” should make way for “we”. The ‘Me to Us’ philosophy provides a tangible way of improving our family bonds and those with others building a just society.

Who you are is enough. No need to be someone else!
Who am I? Who are you?
Simple, yet a profound question. I am myself, imperial, plain and true! I am- is a concept and a thought – I am many things—I am a man, a former child and a future skeleton. In a distant future I am a pile of dust. I am a “brother”, a “son” and a “father “and now a grand One! I am this and I am that. My imperfections make me perfect. I am secure in my insecurities. I am myself and never a shadow of myself!
Hardships reveal who you really are. You reveal yourself by how you treat people in need. When you have options, how you choose reveals who you really are. Taking responsibility for your actions, owning up your mistakes and failures reveal who you are!

You are not your circumstances. You are not your beliefs. You are not just a name! You are a thousand things but everyone chooses to see the million things you are not. The problem with latching onto identities is – it leaves you lost and confused when those circumstances are stripped from us. When marriages break up, it’s not just the pain of losing someone you once loved. It’s also the devastating loss of who you had become: a wife, a husband. When the job or career is lost, no matter what the reason—even retirement—people feel lost.

I do not mind being hated for who i am than be loved for who I am not! I am who I am, accept me, reject me, but I am still me. At the end of the day it’s just I, Me and Myself and the god!
When I was in school, I believed life was something that happens in college. College did happen. Yes, it was fun. I thought life would happen after the job! I became a heart surgeon and that seemed like the perfect expression for me. With a lot of hard work and team efforts, it began to take off. It was exciting and at times nerve-wracking. . I thought life would happen after marriage. Marriage happened – Togetherness, arguments, hopes and all the things in between. I see beauty in Chaos!

One challenge after another, and in despair asked HIM – Where is this thing called – Life and who am I in this? Why do I always seem to miss it? I heard a whisper: “This is life and this is you – Sometimes high, sometimes low, sometimes wow, sometimes so-so, and it goes on. Moments are temporary. Memories are forever!
I am one- DNA software. Genetic code is a divine writing and a standard operating procedure. DNA is shaped like a long ladder that’s twisted into a spiral rod. If the entire DNA in just one of your cells- we have around 37 trillion cells, was unpacked and stretched out straight, it would be two yards long. The total length of DNA packed into you would stretch from here to the sun and back 30 times! To grasp the amount of DNA information in one cell, “a live reading of that code at a rate of three letters per second would take thirty-one years, if reading continued day and night.
Your uniqueness is embedded in that 0.1% of your DNA that belongs only to you. This code identifies you and your behavior. We are learning the language in which God created life.

Suffer, learn, and grow. I suffer calmly, with dignity, with serenity. I have been bruised and battered, bent and broken, but into a better shape. All the things that happened to me in the past brought me here. I forgive myself and everybody. Yes – You cannot forgive others for your mistakes!
Standing still is the fastest way of moving backwards in a rapidly changing world. No man ever got very high by pulling others down. The first duty of love is to listen. I am struck by its simplicity. And yet one hardly listens. The indifferent gaze is a perpetual farewell.

It’s funny how good memories can make you cry. It’s funny how forever- never seems to last. It’s funny how friends can just leave when you’re down. It’s funny how when you need someone they never are around. It’s funny how people change. It’s funny how so many lies are packed into one love letter. It’s funny how you can forgive but not forget. It’s funny how ironic life turns out to be. Life goes on!

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