Money Talks!  Love listens and cares!

Nuances of life!

GUEST COLUMB: Dr. N Prabhudev

Bengaluru Express

Bengaluru, Aug. 5: All money and no love is Financially Rich but Personally Bankrupt!

When Money Talks, Love Walks: either towards you or away from you! Money Matters, Until It Doesn’t! The highest dividend money pays is the ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want, is priceless.

To go after money is greed. To have money and flaunt it is vulgar! To spend it is reckless! But giving it to others in need is kindness! There is grudging but overwhelming admiration for those who make lot of money. There is an overwhelming desire to admire, and almost to worship, the rich and the powerful! If you have In addition, good qualities the society adores you. To despise, or, at least, to neglect persons who are poor and not so rich amounts moral corruption!

Basic ‘enough’ is a necessity! He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough. We desire both to be respectable and to be respected. We frequently see the respectful attentions of the world more strongly directed towards the rich and the great and there is palpable contempt for the poor and the humble!

Love and money, often seen as opposing forces! They are, in reality, complementary aspects of a fulfilling life. Love is fast becoming an outdated sentiment. Love is being phased out!

Love and money are two extremely complex subjects in their own right. When they’re mixed haphazardly, it is a recipe for disaster. They keep lives together. Money symbolizes security and happiness. Love symbolises care and concern, intimacy, passion and commitment! Love is Satyam, Shivam, Sundaram.

There’s something inherently disturbing about thinking of wealth as obscene – limits our understanding of one of the most important and powerful criteria of human progress. Human desires are insatiable! The more we have the more we want! Enough is enough is a feeling of contentment – having a roof over your head, food in your belly, friends and family at your back, and enough money in your pockets – just more than what your wife can spend!

I remember the time in my life when I was constantly striving for more. More success, more power, more recognition and more sought after. It was a never-ending race! No matter how much I achieved, it wasn’t enough. This pursuit of ‘more’ began to take its toll. I was constantly stressed, and I felt disconnected from what mattered to me. The worst part- Despite everything I had, I still didn’t feel fulfilled.

When you have Money with you, you forget who you are! When you do not have money, others forget who you are! Money talks and walks! But do not allow it to bark. It took a life time to understand this – “Money talks but wealth whispers”!

When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life now that I am not so young, I am convinced – it is. Money can’t buy me love; the Beatles once sang – Try buying it without money!

Having lots of money is like being high on drugs. It can make you feel powerful and giddy. It makes you feel invincible. Money makes us feel that we’re better and more important than we really are. Money fattens our ego! It has power to bring people together and also tear them apart.

Money gives you power, dignity and honour.   Money by itself is neither good nor bad. Usage of money makes it good or bad. Choice is yours; Money is just a tool. The more you get the more you want! Money is rightly said- is an Aphrodisiac! More money equals more pleasure!

Morphology of love has changed!

Often love has become limited to money and physical attraction. In the past, love was selfless! Now love is transactional! Love must be chosen, and then built over time.

Being in love is different from just loving someone! Love is Overused, misused and abused, love has lost its meaning today. The young want it all: a successful career, financial independence, an enviable lifestyle, and of course a partner- in that order! For me, Love is a timeless emotion!  But many believe it has lost its relevance in today’s world. We live in a fallen world! If love is not dead, it is ailing,”!  Not many prefer long term commitment –Just instant-  just hit and run!

In Love Keep the fights Clean and passion dirty!

Love doesn’t come with a hallmark of quality, integrity and longevity! The innate insecurity of love, rather perversely, is what makes it so desirable and that is why it is so powerful. True Love is a force that encompasses trust, understanding, empathy and sacrifice. For many love has become an instant gratification! When love is confined to lust and trust is confined to words and legal documents, disappointments are inevitable!

Love is fragile when ignored! It needs to be nurtured to thrive. It Waxes and Wanes. It can be overwhelmingly present and then elusively quiet. If not honoured, it dies. Don’t settle for less than what’s a perfect fit for your heart.

Bottom line: It is good to have money and the things that it can buy! When you are battling poverty, money is the ultimate wealth. When you are sick, immunity and health are the ultimate wealth. If you are lonely, love is the wealth you need. You are not rich until you have something that money cannot buy!

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